Dr Robert Lefever

Contacting Doctor Lefever

robert — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 07:14:20 +0000

To contact Dr Robert Lefever please email info@drrobertlefever.co.uk or visit his website: www.doctor-robert.com or call on 07540 281 820

Arrogance

robert — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 07:12:54 +0000

None of us wants to be thought arrogant but, on two important occasions when this description was applied to me, I found it very helpful. In each case it was when I had interpreted someone else’s behaviour in a way that was critical of me. It was pointed out that I am not the centre of the universe.

Publication

robert — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 07:12:35 +0000

There was a time when I had letters published regularly in my favourite newspaper. Then nothing I wrote in three years was published and now I’ve had two published this year. As the only subject I write about is addiction, I suspect that the variable is not my knowledge or my standard of writing but the beliefs of the letters editor. I think that’s fair enough: it’s his or her privilege to choose. I can always send my pearls elsewhere (if they will have them).

Sense And Sensibility

robert — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 07:12:17 +0000

What a truly lovely man! He was so kind and thoughtful but – more than that – he was careful in what he said.

Uncertainty

robert — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 06:25:41 +0000

On some of the most important decisions in life we may be uncertain. This is as we would expect. Important decisions have a lot hanging on them and therefore we have to look at all sorts of ramifications and a whole range of possible outcomes. Far from criticising ourselves when we are uncertain, we should give ourselves credit for taking the issue seriously.

Reflection

robert — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 06:25:24 +0000

When we look back at something, we inevitably lose much of the’ feel’ that influenced us at the time. When we question our previous motives (or someone else’s) we tie ourselves up in even more complex knots. Trying to work things out so that we can be absolutely sure of something in the past is a hopeless quest.

The Good Old Days

robert — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 06:25:03 +0000

Were they really? And, while we are looking back, have we forgotten to look forward?

Being Positive

robert — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 08:43:40 +0000

In the middle of negative experiences it is difficult to be positive. We can have hope that things will eventually work out for the better. We can avoid being determinedly over-zealous. Somewhere between these extremes there must be a comfortable place of gentle acceptance – which may be all the positivity that we can muster at this time.

Putting Something In The Bank

robert — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 08:43:26 +0000

I paid some hard-earned money into the bank today. I shall also pop in to see some Fellowship friends this evening before I go out to supper. In each case I am building up reserves.

Looking Ahead

robert — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 08:43:03 +0000

Planning is fine. I get myself into a lot of trouble when I act impetuously. Projecting the end result before I have done the work is silly. Working towards a pre-determined goal is good – provided that the goal has been well considered and provided that the work is genuinely moving me in the right direction.’The Fellowships encourage us to say “This too shall pass” and “One day at a time’”. That’s excellent – as far as it goes – but it doesn’t get anything done.